Okay, I'm on my own in the pursuit of residencies. And on my own in telling people graciously that I have to get back to work. Maybe just being direct works best.
In any event I started looking up some residencies. I'm going to see what happens. There some some bloggers who go to 2-3 a year! ( that's "knowing" the application ropes), and they have a variety of experiences, from conference to retreat. . . . We have a monastery near us. I wonder if they would allow a writer to retreat there? Maybe worth asking.
It may be fun to find a place to retreat to with several other writers, so we could work alone, then have dinner and sharing in the evening. That sounds appealing too. We'll see.